• Signs you might be into BDSM

Signs you might be into BDSM

There’s nothing wrong with admitting that things have been getting a little vanilla of late. In fact, falling into habits a natural process – the way you make love as a couple can become repetitive if both parties become complacent. That’s why Only 4 Pleasure have brought you this handy guide to help you discover if BDSM is for you! Bondage and Discipline (BD), Domination and Submission (DS) and Sadism and Masochism (SM) encompass of wide spectrum of sexual practices, from entry-level love-biting and light spanking to bondage and blindfolding. Read on to find out whether you’re the secret queen of kink!

 

You enjoy ‘rough’ sex

 

‘Rough’ is a general term that can begin with hair-pulling, pinching and gentle biting and progress to the kind of activity that leaves marks. It’s important to have a clear understanding with your partner about what you’re comfortable with (and vice versa) because not everyone’s idea of ‘rough sex’ is the same. Being harder on each other’s bodies can feel invoke passion and also allow you to enact fantasies you’ve only dreamt of! If you’re enjoying a bit of Edward Cullen-style biting and trying to sneak little spanking into the bedroom, chat to your partner about trying out some whips and paddles to kink things up a notch.

 

You’re ‘inspired’ by power play

 

Consider the categories you enjoy watching when you’ve explore pornography on the internet. What excited you the most? Power play during sex is a common source of pleasure – for some women, having their man take control (like Christian Grey in 50 Shades of Grey) can be a turn on, but for others, a dominatrix resides within! The best way to find out which one you are is to experience both, but be mindful that your partner may not be comfortable with rough-handling you, or may find being submissive humiliating. Speak openly about your desires and decide how you’ll tackle your experimentations together.

 

Are you a secret sub?

A submissive partner in a BDSM relationship is often known as a ‘bottom,’ or ‘sub.’ Being dominated can be exciting, but it requires a lot of trust. A great way to start out is to have your partner blindfold you, so that you can experience being at their mercy. If you enjoyed that, you’ll love our range of deluxe restraints. It’s an exhilarating adrenaline rush for some.

 

Or are you a secret dominatrix?

A dominatrix is traditionally a dominating women, but the role has also been associated with certain levels of sadism – a desire to hurt and humiliate another. As we mentioned earlier, BDSM is a broad spectrum of sexual practise, and is often about enacting fantasies rather than having a genuine desire to hurt your partner (usually quite the opposite). If your partner says they experience pleasure as a result of non-injury causing pain, you’ll be able to explore new ways to be the ‘top.’ Giving them orders, ‘punishing’ them and roleplaying fantasies where you are in a position of authority are all great ways to explore your inner dominatrix. There’s a good chance they’ll find it super sexy, especially if there’s costumes involved!

 

IMPORTANT NOTE: Remember to always set a safe word, and ensure that both parties have consented to any sexual activity prior to exploring any of the concepts in this blog.